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Dear diary, tuesday.

In self esteem on 27. July 2010 at 06:56

This morning i have my time miscalculated i got up at 4 am and have read  some articles about sporttracker apps till 5am. But i was at time at my morning shift. My mood is relaxed this morning, but this night Nadine had heavy labor pain. After 2 hours they werden gone. It was a short night.

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Dear diary, how i do be confident?

In borderline, depresson, diary, self esteem on 26. July 2010 at 21:01

We are all human and have flaws. Even if your physicalappearance, unique personality, or social skills aren’t what you wish they were, that doesn’t have to stop you from being confident. Confidence translated literally from Latin means “to have faith in oneself”. You are beautiful inside and out so you should loveyourself unconditionally. Here’s how to believe in yourself.

  • Think for yourself. Very confident people know what they are doing is right, usually because they created an original thought rather than attempting to reproduce from an external source.
  • Make a list of special talents you have, or things you do that are good. Focusing on your attributes helps distract you from those parts of yourself that you think are flawed. It doesn’t have to be a specific skill or activity either; it can be an approach or an attitude that you champion through life. Do you always stay calm, cool and collected, even in hurried situations? Are you verypatient with people? Do you always see the humorous side of things? Are you always there for your friends?
  • Find your passion . Whether it’s baton twirling, martial arts, classic cars, musicianship, or basket weaving, you will feel confident pursuing that endeavor by recognizing what you enjoy doing the most. More importantly, you’ll be enjoying your progress.
  • Focus on Others. Try not to focus negatively on how you come across or how others mayperceive you. Instead, focus more on making other people happy, and that will build yourconfidence as other people start enjoying your company.
  • Take care of yourself. Eat a healthy diet. Don’t abuse your body, don’t overload it, and don’tdeny it any of the things it needs. At the same time, don’t obsess. Buying all the moisturizers, creams and conditioners will not bring you closer to who you want to be. Those things are only band-aids and make up. Confidence comes from within. Take the time to reflect on your life and do some emotional maintenance. In order to be truly confident, you absolutely must value yourself and understand that your well-being is important.
  • Work out. This is a real fast change. The gym can transform even the last geek. It will help you be who you are, and not be afraid of it. That’s the real confidence. Getting enough exercise can boost your confidence amazingly. Not only will it give you more energy throughout the day, but being in good physical shape will make you feel more “worthy” you could say, to talk to others and to be yourself.
  • Stick up for yourself. If people put you down (and not in a good-natured, joking way), then let them know that their opinion of you is not held by everyone—most of all yourself. This may, at first, be hard to do. But once you stick up for yourself a few times, your confidence builds and you get more adept at it.
  • Celebrate your individuality. If you know you’ve got something special or different, then embrace it; don’t hide it. That’s diversity. You may wish that you were taller, or shorter, skinnier,stronger, whatever the case may be. But you need to realize that, if you were like everyone else, then you wouldn’t be who you are. “What am I?” you ask; the answer’s easy: You’re a uniqueindividual who is capable of growing and learning.
  • Take action. It is surprising how powerful the simple step of taking an action can be. And the action you take need not be something extravagant or grand. It could be something as simple as tackling a task that you have been procrastinating, such as writing a letter or tidying up that corner of the garage that has been out of control for the last several months. It could also be something as interesting as taking a class in yoga, art, interior design, anything that interests you that you haven’t done yet. Whether large or small, action brings with it exhilaration, enthusiasm, and the confidence that other things can be done as well.
  • Improve your posture. Having good posture can actually make you feel more confident. Don’t slouch or slump your shoulders; nothing says “I lack confidence” more than a person who appears like they’re trying to hide from the world. Make sure that your back is straight, your shoulders are square, and your chest is puffed out slightly (but stay loose, otherwise you’ll appear stiff and uptight). Keep your chin up and your eyes forward rather than looking at the ground.
  • Make a conscious effort to smile often. A smile makes you appear warm, honest, friendly, and confident. You can also just relax your facial muscles entirely, which will make you appear calm and relaxed. Observe yourself in a mirror to make sure that you don’t have a tense or nervous facial expression, because if you do others will believe you to be sad, angry, or uncomfortable.
  • Make eye contact with others, especially when engaging in conversation. Gaze into the other person’s eyes as you talk to make yourself seem interested, calm, and confident. Avoiding eye contact makes you appear shy and submissive, while directly staring for too long may make you appear angry or scared. So the best advice is to gaze into a person’s eyes as you converse with them while occasionally shifting your gaze or looking around.
  • Control your hand motions. When it comes to gesturing with your hands, keeping your hands far apart and your palms open makes you appear open and honest. Pointing with your fingers and bringing your hands closer together can draw emphasis to what you are saying. Don’t overuse hand gestures or you’ll look nervous and unstable. Avoid wringing your hands or touching your sleeves, as these things can make you appear nervous, tense, or even dishonest.
  • Put a little strut into your walk. Move like you have a purpose, and keep your knees slightly bent to avoid appearing stiff and rigid.
  • Act confident, even if you don’t truly feel it. After a while, it will come naturally, and you will feel confident in yourself! Also, learn to not care what others think of you. If you let what people say to you bring you down, you will never be happy. Only care about how you feel about yourself, and don’t always take what people say at face value, because they may be jealous of you and are intending to put you down. Don’t let them stop your progress, but stand up for yourself whileacting calmly.
  • Smile and talk loudly and clearly, making jokes and being generally happy. Don’t moan or be over-confident people hate that so much.
  • Be kind to every one, even if you don’t like them. No matter who they are just be nice. That way, you will seem warm, friendly, caring and kind.

Dear diary, fucking petrus!

In self esteem on 26. July 2010 at 13:34

I’m still working and in a half hour i have my closing time. And what is going on? It’s raining now. I think Petrus can’t love me. Well, i buy a umbrella this afternoon when i go in the City. 

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Dear diary,spongebob and purzel!

In self esteem on 24. July 2010 at 14:41

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Well, a beautyful gay couple.

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Dear diary, farewell letter

In self esteem on 24. July 2010 at 12:29

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This morning i have found my farewell letter for my dead parents. I have wrote the letter through my therapy. Today i try to translate it in the english language. I’m sad. I missing they.

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Raise Self Esteem (quick, easy and effective) #blog

In self esteem on 23. July 2010 at 21:26

STOP trying to please others! #blog

In borderline, depression, self esteem on 23. July 2010 at 21:13

There is one thing you can do right now to improve your self-esteem: Do yourself a favour and stop trying to be everybody’s darling. That won’t work. Really. There always will be people who won’t like you. And that’s okay. So you can be truly yourself anyway. And there is another simple but profound truth: If you look after yourself first, if you take care of your own happiness FIRST, then it will become really easy for you to help other people in the second place. Because you then act from a position of power and strength.

dear diary, world’s enemy #1 ! #fb

In diary, self esteem on 23. July 2010 at 05:42

is facebook and i’m a supporter of this information dealer.

i’m great sinner!

but why not? i’m a atheist.

in my next live i would to be god and then i control all my creatures with facebook. when i make a lot  of money and so can i buy every night a other angel. and i make bill gates for pope!

this night my sleep was short but restful. i don’t have dreamed about sex with my mother or about fighting against dwarfs.

i have only dreamed about sex with my ex-affair. I will tell my psychiatrist nothing about it, my girlfriend too.

last night is cumming nadine’s amniotic sac . i hope here we go.

fuck depression!

How Low Self-Esteem Can Cost You The Job

In depression, self esteem on 22. July 2010 at 19:14

If you’re one of the many who battle low self-esteem, your career is probably suffering as a result. Experts say that people with low self-esteem engage in subconscious behaviors that undermine their success, making them less likely to ask for or get promotions, raises and even jobs.

According to Lois Frankel, Ph.D., president of Corporate Coaching International and author of the bestselling Nice Girls Don’t Get The Corner Office, “People with low self-esteem often try to remain under the radar screen because they don’t want to be noticed, but especially in this economy, that is the wrong thing to do.”

via How Low Self-Esteem Can Cost You The Job – Forbes.com.

Dear diary, i’m tired.

In self esteem on 22. July 2010 at 14:43

Every day at this time i’m mental tired. Why? My brain feels like a highway full of heavy trucks. After a nap it’s away.

This noon i have teach my step-daughter in bicycling, need now a vacation after this challenge.

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