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Dear diary, how i do be confident?

In borderline, depresson, diary, self esteem on 26. July 2010 at 21:01

We are all human and have flaws. Even if your physicalappearance, unique personality, or social skills aren’t what you wish they were, that doesn’t have to stop you from being confident. Confidence translated literally from Latin means “to have faith in oneself”. You are beautiful inside and out so you should loveyourself unconditionally. Here’s how to believe in yourself.

  • Think for yourself. Very confident people know what they are doing is right, usually because they created an original thought rather than attempting to reproduce from an external source.
  • Make a list of special talents you have, or things you do that are good. Focusing on your attributes helps distract you from those parts of yourself that you think are flawed. It doesn’t have to be a specific skill or activity either; it can be an approach or an attitude that you champion through life. Do you always stay calm, cool and collected, even in hurried situations? Are you verypatient with people? Do you always see the humorous side of things? Are you always there for your friends?
  • Find your passion . Whether it’s baton twirling, martial arts, classic cars, musicianship, or basket weaving, you will feel confident pursuing that endeavor by recognizing what you enjoy doing the most. More importantly, you’ll be enjoying your progress.
  • Focus on Others. Try not to focus negatively on how you come across or how others mayperceive you. Instead, focus more on making other people happy, and that will build yourconfidence as other people start enjoying your company.
  • Take care of yourself. Eat a healthy diet. Don’t abuse your body, don’t overload it, and don’tdeny it any of the things it needs. At the same time, don’t obsess. Buying all the moisturizers, creams and conditioners will not bring you closer to who you want to be. Those things are only band-aids and make up. Confidence comes from within. Take the time to reflect on your life and do some emotional maintenance. In order to be truly confident, you absolutely must value yourself and understand that your well-being is important.
  • Work out. This is a real fast change. The gym can transform even the last geek. It will help you be who you are, and not be afraid of it. That’s the real confidence. Getting enough exercise can boost your confidence amazingly. Not only will it give you more energy throughout the day, but being in good physical shape will make you feel more “worthy” you could say, to talk to others and to be yourself.
  • Stick up for yourself. If people put you down (and not in a good-natured, joking way), then let them know that their opinion of you is not held by everyone—most of all yourself. This may, at first, be hard to do. But once you stick up for yourself a few times, your confidence builds and you get more adept at it.
  • Celebrate your individuality. If you know you’ve got something special or different, then embrace it; don’t hide it. That’s diversity. You may wish that you were taller, or shorter, skinnier,stronger, whatever the case may be. But you need to realize that, if you were like everyone else, then you wouldn’t be who you are. “What am I?” you ask; the answer’s easy: You’re a uniqueindividual who is capable of growing and learning.
  • Take action. It is surprising how powerful the simple step of taking an action can be. And the action you take need not be something extravagant or grand. It could be something as simple as tackling a task that you have been procrastinating, such as writing a letter or tidying up that corner of the garage that has been out of control for the last several months. It could also be something as interesting as taking a class in yoga, art, interior design, anything that interests you that you haven’t done yet. Whether large or small, action brings with it exhilaration, enthusiasm, and the confidence that other things can be done as well.
  • Improve your posture. Having good posture can actually make you feel more confident. Don’t slouch or slump your shoulders; nothing says “I lack confidence” more than a person who appears like they’re trying to hide from the world. Make sure that your back is straight, your shoulders are square, and your chest is puffed out slightly (but stay loose, otherwise you’ll appear stiff and uptight). Keep your chin up and your eyes forward rather than looking at the ground.
  • Make a conscious effort to smile often. A smile makes you appear warm, honest, friendly, and confident. You can also just relax your facial muscles entirely, which will make you appear calm and relaxed. Observe yourself in a mirror to make sure that you don’t have a tense or nervous facial expression, because if you do others will believe you to be sad, angry, or uncomfortable.
  • Make eye contact with others, especially when engaging in conversation. Gaze into the other person’s eyes as you talk to make yourself seem interested, calm, and confident. Avoiding eye contact makes you appear shy and submissive, while directly staring for too long may make you appear angry or scared. So the best advice is to gaze into a person’s eyes as you converse with them while occasionally shifting your gaze or looking around.
  • Control your hand motions. When it comes to gesturing with your hands, keeping your hands far apart and your palms open makes you appear open and honest. Pointing with your fingers and bringing your hands closer together can draw emphasis to what you are saying. Don’t overuse hand gestures or you’ll look nervous and unstable. Avoid wringing your hands or touching your sleeves, as these things can make you appear nervous, tense, or even dishonest.
  • Put a little strut into your walk. Move like you have a purpose, and keep your knees slightly bent to avoid appearing stiff and rigid.
  • Act confident, even if you don’t truly feel it. After a while, it will come naturally, and you will feel confident in yourself! Also, learn to not care what others think of you. If you let what people say to you bring you down, you will never be happy. Only care about how you feel about yourself, and don’t always take what people say at face value, because they may be jealous of you and are intending to put you down. Don’t let them stop your progress, but stand up for yourself whileacting calmly.
  • Smile and talk loudly and clearly, making jokes and being generally happy. Don’t moan or be over-confident people hate that so much.
  • Be kind to every one, even if you don’t like them. No matter who they are just be nice. That way, you will seem warm, friendly, caring and kind.

Dear diary, i sat on the bridge, ready to jump! #blog

In depression, diary on 26. July 2010 at 20:10

last year at december :
“soon it’s over” i thought as i sat at a bridge over the rhine in my home town. my soul was dead and i want to jump in river to find peace. in my life is too much happening still want to live on.
but a little thing in my brain held me back. one little thought: you are at the end! why you don’t try to begin a new life? is it not a try worth?
and i stood on.
today i’m happy that i attempted. i’m not yet happy but i’m on the right way.

Dear diary, hack yourself!

In borderline, depression on 25. July 2010 at 22:39

You can be happy. You can live the life you want to live. You can become the person

hack yourself!

you want to be.

This is what I’ve figured out so far.

Stop assigning blame. This is the first step. Stop assigning blame and leave the past behind you.

You know whose fault it is that your life isn’t perfect. Your boss. Your teachers. Your ex-lovers. The ones who hurt you, the ones who abused you, the ones who left you bleeding. Or even yourself. You know whose fault it is — you’ve been telling yourself your whole life. Knowing whose fault it is that your life sucks is an excellent way to absolve yourself of any reponsibility for taking your life into your own hands.

Forget about it. Let it go. The past isn’t real. “That was in another country, and besides, the wench is dead.” If we’re not talking about something that is real and present and in your life right now, then it doesn’t matter. Nothing can be done about it. If nothing can be done about it, then don’t spend your energy dwelling on it — you have other things to do.

via hack yourself.

Dear diary, horny! #blog #blogger

In diary on 25. July 2010 at 17:02

my tomcat is very horny today but the two cats are cold like a 2000 years old glacier. well, why it is to be with cats different?-there it must through.

i was very lazy today with a bit fatigue. my family is visiting friends and i staying at home. will fool no one, i have good manners.

often i will to be alone but when i’m alone i miss my family….

right mood

in the last days my brain has no longer felt like a fallen asleep elbow. i can think almost without noises. clear-thinking.

it is strange. nevermind, i must accustom me .

it goes up!

tomorrow i have early shift till 2 pm and i will rock the workplace.

symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD)

In borderline on 25. July 2010 at 08:15

The main feature of borderline personality disorder (BPD) is apervasive pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions. People with borderline personality disorder are also usually very impulsive.

This disorder occurs in most by early adulthood. The unstable pattern of interacting with others has persisted for years and is usually closely related to the person’s self-image and early social interactions. The pattern is present in a variety of settings (e.g., not just at work or home) and often is accompanied by a similar lability (fluctuating back and forth, sometimes in a quick manner) in a person’s emotions and feelings. Relationships and the person’s emotion may often be characterized as being shallow.

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Raise Self Esteem (quick, easy and effective) #blog

In self esteem on 23. July 2010 at 21:26

STOP trying to please others! #blog

In borderline, depression, self esteem on 23. July 2010 at 21:13

There is one thing you can do right now to improve your self-esteem: Do yourself a favour and stop trying to be everybody’s darling. That won’t work. Really. There always will be people who won’t like you. And that’s okay. So you can be truly yourself anyway. And there is another simple but profound truth: If you look after yourself first, if you take care of your own happiness FIRST, then it will become really easy for you to help other people in the second place. Because you then act from a position of power and strength.

dear diary, breakfast!

In borderline, depression, diary, self esteem on 22. July 2010 at 09:10

to improve my self-esteem and self-confidence thru my illness includes a sensible nutrition. it’s important to increase the serotonin level.  since a couple of days i eat more fruits and vegetables. this morning i have eaten only tomatoes and cucumber without dressing, only salt. i drank coffee without milk and sugar.  as a side effect i have lost weight.

for an increasing serotonin level i do 5 times a week sport exercises.

meanwhile i feel me better on this way.

Shocking Statistics About Depression

In borderline, diary, self esteem on 21. July 2010 at 05:20

As a young girl, I thought no one felt the way I did. I wondered, Do other children feel this way? This loneliness? These bursts of self hatred?”

The statistics are scary.

18.8 million American adults (That’s 9.5%) of the population are suffering from depressive disorders. [SOURCE]

2% of Preschoolers are clinically depressed. Meaning, one in every fifty preschool student is chronically depressed. [SOURCE]

via Shocking Statistics About Depression | healthkicker.

dear diary, monday

In borderline on 20. July 2010 at 19:48

at the end it was a good day at the sea. i have breaded my step daughter with sand and build sand castles.

i was even in the water! it’s a wonder. normally i hate more water than a bathtub filling. now i’m tired, but tired from a good day. this evening i will study articles about depression, confidence and self-esteem.

i begin to realize that the life can be beautiful. but i must do much more.

i hope i’m on the right way. on the way away to end my life with my own hands.  it’s a stony way with any pain.